This is an attempt at a serious post. You have been warned.
The blogs I read tend to be a step ahead of my own thinking. As soon as I think about a subject, I check up on my favorite blogs and what do you know, they just wrote about that. It’s slightly unnerving.
A few links:
These are all actually posts I found within the past 2 days. What really sparked me on this line of thought was Jacque at Dots and Hots.
I was about to comment with “I play WOW to escape”… and that hit me hard. Really? Is that why I play? Hours and hours of thought later…
Yes. I play wow to escape. It’s a chance to live in another world, a world with fewer responsibilities and problems. And with more fun. Is this a good thing? No and yes.
Fewer responsibilities: I don’t have to take out the trash in Azeroth. I don’t have to clean up my house (well maybe my bank space). But no one gets on my case for having a messy bank!
More fun: Yeah, when was the last time you divided someone by zero IRL? (love that quote, Euripedes)
When a distraction becomes an obsession though, therein lies the danger. When real-life responsibilities take a back-seat to WoW responsibilities, that’s a problem. Your raid team can handle it if you have to miss out on a night. If your family needs you they may not be able to.
I’ve been unemployed for the last 2 weeks. I have put in a ridiculous amount of WoW time in. Even I say it’s ridiculous. Ridiculous to the point where… it’s *all* I’ve done except eat and sleep for at least 3 days. My chauffeuing responsibilities were nice while they lasted, it gave the appearance that I wasn’t just an unemployed bum on the computer all day. (my apologies if that offends any unemployed bums out there)
Is this a reason? Is this an excuse? Am I really that desperate to justify myself… to who? Who gets to determine how I spend my time?
And why is sitting on the couch in front of the TV watching the Olympics in any way more “productive” than sitting in front of a computer playing WoW? The logic does not compute.
Last night wasn’t all that fun for me. It was on the verge of miserable. I have a very good friend that I haven’t gotten to hang out with in awhile, mostly due to conflicting work schedules. I worked earlier and he worked later, had other things on evenings and it just didn’t work out for awhile. Oh yeah, and he just quit WoW so I don’t even get to see him on Azeroth.
Then he texts me yesterday around lunch time asking if we could hang out that night.
“Um, sorry it’s raid night? But I’m available any other time this whole week…”
“LOL wow you play that game too much. Cya.”
Due to my unemployment, I have had so much free time this week it’s not even funny. At any other time I could’ve just dropped whatever I was doing on an alt or whatever and gone to do something with him. But I had a previous commitment. I had signed up for a raid with my guild and I decided that would take priority.
Am I wrong for this? Yes it’s “just a game”… no. It’s not. These people are my friends too. I am not going to ditch my friends that I already had plans with just because some other friend wants to play.
Am I an idiot? I’m not saying “I’d rather play a game than hang out with you” although I’m pretty sure that’s how he’s taking it. I’m saying “I’ve already got plans with other friends.”
If I had just said that, would he have gotten as upset over it? I doubt it. Unless he guessed (correctly) that it just meant I was raiding.
If I had said that I had a ping pong tournament to go to. Would he have been upset? NO! I had a previous commitment! WHY does WoW not qualify as any other hobby out there.
The fact that I spend a lot of time on it? Nope. That’s not it. Some of the people (freaks) in the Olympics would exercise and practice for 12+ hours a day. For a hobby. I don’t care wait you say, it’s not much more than a hobby. In order to be in the Olympics, you cannot be a “professional”. Sure they get sponsored or whatever, but that is not their “job”. Something that is not a “job” but you put in time and effort into I qualify as a “hobby”. And we freaking worship them. The community as a whole worships these Olympians who set aside their personal and social lives in order to excel at their “hobby.” WoWers? Haha no. We’re laughed at, insulted.
I think the line has to be drawn at this: what do you sacrifice in order to give preference to something else? If I don’t ever spend time with my RL friend ever again because I’m playing WoW, then I’m wrong. But if I give up on my Guild friends because I’d rather do something else, I feel wrong too.
And I need to apologize to my guild for that too, last night when I heard we weren’t doing ICC I decided to text my friend back and see if he still wanted to do something. I stepped out of herding kittens because I wanted to do something else. You could try and paint it as “stepping out to let in undergeared raiders come” but no, that wasn’t my intention.
I. Ditched. You.
And I’m sorry. You guys did great in ToC and ToGC and had a lot of fun without me. I could tell. And yes, others who wouldn’t have gotten to raid if I had been there got to raid, but that doesn’t make me feel any better about it.
And of course my friend said “nah, it’s too late now” even though it was only 8 o’clock and he usually stays up until 3. Jerk.
Bottom line: I got left out of the raid AND left out of hanging with my friend. I ended up picking herbs in wintergrasp. Not my idea of fun.
Until I ended up questing on my pally again and chatting with Jacque and helped her out with a group quest or two. Thanks for talking with me!
I believe this may be my deepest and most thought-inducing post yet. Please share your thoughts in a comment, or write your own post. There should be some good discussion in here.